Modesty: and common misconceptions the average girl makes about it

Men don’t notice unless we’re dressed a certain way…
Men notice. Let me tell you; they probably stare more at a girl (like me) who dresses in contrast to the standard American culture than a girl who “goes with the flow”. Men will notice, and while they may not exactly appreciate how I have covered my body so that they can’t see every intimate little detail, they may find it helpful that they are not distracted by me… except for the fact that I am different.

Covering skin is modest…
My mom hates tight. She is sickened at the sight (very common these days) of fat girls with big tummies who barely cover it with their itsy bitsy skin tight shirt. She hates it! And yet many girls think that covering skin means being modest. Hmmm… let's see, if I were a guy, would it make any difference whether or not a the girl next to me is a wearing a strapless shirt or a REALLY tight one? Either way, her body is going to be exposed to me, just waiting for my attention and approval. I would really like to know how many guys are effected differently by the way with which you expose your body…

I won’t get married if I dress like a nerd!
How many modest young women miss that period in their lives where they feel just plain poofy, over clothed or nerdy because of their modest or different dress? Not many I’m sure. It’s hard not to feel swathed in material when the culture around you is exposing as much body as is possible… without making the average parent revolt. Well, let’s not forget that though men are attracted to women who take care of their bodies and present them in a pleasant manner, men also love women for their faces… for their smiles, the way they laugh and carry themselves. Beauty is not complete on the outside when your smile and cheerful demeanor is missing. May we women enchant our future husbands not only with our modest dress, but our smiles and character.

Men will love us for our character even when we expose our bodies…
Not at first! First appearances can be very important in that the image we present to the person we meet will often be the first to pop into their heads when reminded of us. How can a young man focus on loving me and getting to know me (not just my body) when I am inviting him to look at my provocative styled body? Sure, as time goes on he will get to know me better… but personally, I would rather spare my future husband from such disturbances and distractions. I want him to know ME… and then my body; in that order.

There are times when God’s courage and light comes over me and I thoroughly enjoy catching those crazy looks from people who are astounded at my dress. I laugh at mothers who gawk, I pray for girls who whisper and I add a bounce to my step when passing young men who get that… ugh, disgusted look at someone dressed so weird! And yet I know so well (though I may often forget) that how I dress is who attract; I pray that my dress and character would attract handsome, intelligent, clean and Godly young men.

Jennifer

P.S. For the men that read this blog; how do you feel about the way that women dress? E-mail me at thepatriot@surfbest.net.